I’m pretty Death-Positive. This doesn’t mean that I think everyone should die or hail satan, and all that jazz. I’m just aware of my mortality, and my death positivity follows some fantastic bold statements that can be found over at The Order of the Good Death.
One of the most important statements of death positivity for me is number 7. My friends and family know my wishes and I should have the necessary documentation to back those wishes up. I’ve been pretty open about what I want out of life, and certainly pretty upfront about what I want in death. It’s even on my company bio for all staff and students to see:
So, I think about death a lot. Some people find it morbid, some terrifying, and others will happily engage in a conversation with me calmly and rationally. After all, death is important and something we all face eventually. But something I never really think about is what I want said at my funeral. I mean, I’ll be dead. What do I care? But in life, I think a lot about the mark I want to leave on the world. The change I can create and the legacy I leave behind for those that knew me and those that come after me.
I want my eulogy to reflect the life I had. The good, the bad, the strange. I want to live a life that leaves a mark on people for years after my death. I want to live a life that betters not only the people around me, but the earth as well; And while that seems wishy-washy to me (as I tend to subscribe to an Optimistic Nihilism) I still think that when you focus in on a single life, it matters. Sure, everything may end, but for now we’re here, and for now we may as well make the world a little nicer to live in.
I want my eulogy to be an accurate representation of the fact that I tried. So, I try to be kind. I try to minimise hurt and suffering. I try not to be a dick, and I try to mitigate the damage other people are doing. What do you want your eulogy to reflect?
Stay silly folk xx